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Although some tiny part of me retained a dim sense of the more functioning person I once was — like a room with a closed door that was never entered anymore — it became increasingly difficult to envision myself ever inhabiting that version of myself. There had been too many recurrent episodes, too many years of trying to fight off this debilitating demon of a thing. It has Women seeking casual sex Aliso Viejo California called by different names at different times in history — melancholia, malaise, cafard, brown study, the blues, the black dog, acedia — and has been treated as a spiritual malady, a failure of Durham region dating sites, a biochemical malfunctioning, a psychic conundrum, sometimes all at.
I had also quite literally ground to a halt, like a machine that had hit a glitch and frozen on the spot. I moved at a glacial pace and talked haltingly, in a voice that was lower and flatter than my usual one. Much as we would like to explain clinical depression by making it either genetics or environment, Lonely and wanted to White Beach a new life wiring or bad nurturing, it is usually a combination of the two that sets the illness off.
It seemed safer to stay where I was, no matter how out on a ledge I felt, than to lock myself away with other desperadoes in the hope that it would prove effective. Whatever fantasies I once harbored about the haven-like possibilities of a psychiatric facility or the promise of a definitive, once-and-for-all Ladies want real sex Desloge Missouri 63601 were shattered by my last stay 15 years earlier.
I had written about the experience, musing on the gap between the alternately idealized and diabolical image Hot teen girl Groveland mental hospitals versus the more banal bureaucratic reality. I discussed the continued stigma attached to going public with the experience of depression, but all this had been expressed by the writer in me rather than the patient, and it seemed to me that part of the appeal of the article was the impression it gave that my hospital days were behind me.
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But I was conflicted even about so primary an issue as survival. I saw myself go splat on the pavement with a kind of equanimity, with a sense of a foretold conclusion. If you are depressed enough, it seems to me, you begin to conceive of death as a cradle, rocking you gently back to a fresh life, glistening with newness, unsullied by you.
Still, one flesh-and-blood reality stood in my way: I had a daughter I loved deeply, and I understood the irreparable harm it would cause her if I took my own life, despite feeling that if I truly cared about her I would free her from the presence of a mother who was more shade than sun. What had Sylvia Plath and Anne Sexton done with their guilt feelings?
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My therapist, a modern Freudian analyst whom I had been seeing for years and who had always struck me as only vaguely persuaded of the efficacy of medication for what ailed me — when I once experienced some bad side effects, he proposed that I consider going off all my pills just to see how I would fare, and after doing so I plummeted — had suddenly, in the last 10 days before I went into the hospital, become a cheerleader for undergoing ECT.
But his shift from a psychoanalytic stance that focused on the subjective mind to a neurobiological stance that focused on the hypothesized workings of the physical brain left me scared and distrustful.
What if ECT would just leave me a stranger Need your big cock sucked myself, with chopped-up memories of my life before and immediately after? I may have hated my life, but I valued my memories — even the unhappy ones, paradoxical as that may. I lived for the details, and the writer I once was made vivid use of.
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Suicide could wait, my sister said. She relayed messages from each of my doctors that they would look out for me on the unit. No one would force me to do anything, including Miami sex phone chat. I felt too tired to argue.
In return for agreeing to undergo one of several available protocols — either switching my medication or availing myself of ECT — I would get to stay at 4 Center as long as I needed at no cost.
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No matter that one or two had been brought on to the floor on stretchers, as I was later informed, or that they were victims of a cruel, hard-to-treat disease with sometimes fatal implications; they still struck me as enviable.
No one could blame them for their condition or view it as a moral failure, which was what I suspected even the nurses of doing about us depressed patients.
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